The F Word

I’ve decided to make February The F Word month.

F as in FERTILITY. I never understood how lousy the word was until I began facing my own physical limitations.

I recognize now, that fertility is a dirty word. It trumps f#*k’s obscenity. It inherently judges an involuntary ability. And for those of us who stepped on board the trying to make a baby train, fertility easily becomes an obsession.

Fertility or lack there of defines my perceptions, self-esteem and femininity. How crappy is that?

Since it has become such an obscene word to me, I’m going to try using it instead of f*ck when I’m angry and see how it feels coming out of my mouth. Next time I stub my toes I’ll shout, “FERTILITY!”

During F Word month, I’m going to be honest about my experiences with fertility and infertility.

I hope to reach other women attempting to get pregnant and start a community where we take control of our reproductive choices and find peace.

Who is with me?


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  1. I fertility-ing love this idea!

    You say: “Fertility or lack there of defines my perceptions, self-esteem and femininity. How crappy is that?”

    I say: Pretty fertility-ing crappy.

    Good for you for putting it out there. I am with you, girl.

  2. I have an urge to go yell that all angry style in public now. lol.

    It’s really hard being open and honest about fertility problems so if you can do it, all the better for spreading the word. I hate the taboo of miscarriage and fertility problems so I always encourage people to be open when they feel up to it.

    I saw your comment on Yolks post about having a 3 yr old and 2 miscarriages since. Just had to check out the woman in the same position as me. I love your idea.

    1. @slcurwin,
      So glad we found each other. Our situation is a hard place to be in. I have friends who cannot conceive and I know I am so lucky that I have an amazing healthy girl. But seriously, WTF that I can’t seem to do it again. I’m reading other blogs and don’t even understand all of the shorthand bcs IVF was not what we wanted to put ourselves through. So here I am, hoping and praying for another healthy pregnancy but my time has nearly run out. That’s part of what I want to talk about here- what have we given up in our persuit of baby? What have we become? Hope you come back and share more of your story.

  3. Hey there, thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m sorry to hear of your losses and yes infertility seems to be an ugly word to other people.

    I’m so happy to have found a wonderful community of women with whom I can express my feelings and emotions with online. It’s amazing how supportive they are and how wonderful it is to express these frustrations to people who understand.

    You don’t need to start the community–it’s already there and thriving! Join in!

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